Statements about Realise yourself, man


“Kim Gørtz, your book points up the distinctiveness of men, their reflectiveness, courage, humour, vulnerabilities, intelligences, curiosities, strengths, and self-insights.”

– Martine Rymann
Deputy Manager


“Realise yourself, man was like spending four cosy and enriching hours in the company of Kim. He steps forth and in true character writes freely, intuitively, and fully honestly about his realisations and inner transformations. As a woman it was enormously interesting to gain an insight into the man’s deeper universe and the ideals, demons, losses, and dreams, he goes around and grapples with.


The extent of my views was expanded, in terms of what it means to be a man, how different men are, and how many men live and breathe within a single man. I am left with an uplifted feeling, not alone of men as individuals, but of men whose gender is under transformation – toward a greater balance between the classic virtues of men and qualities such as vulnerability, sensitivity, honesty, and spirituality.


I can fervently recommend Realise yourself, man to all women, who are eager to understand men better, both that which he is, and that which he is in the process of becoming.”

– Mette Sillesen 
Researcher of the Future


“Yesterday I read the section of the book that is available on the net. I am captivated and want more, want all of it.”

– Claus


“Wow, it is simply strong, courageous, warm, frightening, embracing, emancipating, and beautifully written. Hope truly, that many get the chance to read it.”

– Morten Svane
Boarding School Principal


“I was on a trip through the book, which is full of energy and flowery language. Much of it stings! It is interesting to experience the book’s build-up and dramatic technique: a movement into the nodes, the nodes of pain and nodes of emptiness. I read myself more into these conditions, the more I approached the point of no return; where I felt an ache in moving toward a possible dissolution. The question is how can we bring ourselves into conditions, where it is ‘dangerous’ for ourselves, where we feel the ache, the total dissolution, in order to move further toward the zero-point in life; there, where we can recognise ourselves, accept ourselves, and are ourselves? It is a bit like child upbringing for adults… one must let oneself fall in order to learn to walk.”

– Peter Reichhardt
written in connection with the publication of the book


“Wow, Kim Gørtz gets right to the point! Words and concepts spray out of his pen, and I joined the ride down the deluge, the water fall, and the knife-sharp rocks, that lay under the surface. A bit of an arduous tour, complicated and challenging. I must acknowledge that I didn’t understand all of it, but I must also acknowledge that I now have a different standpoint in life. I can sufficiently well see the world populated by the men described, and in that sense the book is shocking to read, but I myself am in far calmer waters and therefore cannot identify with it sufficiently.

I experience that the author disappears into a space with a lot of distress from self-recognition, with incredibly many philosophical references and cascades of words and concepts. It is a bit too much for my level of knowledge, but an experience that I am pleased to have had, as it is an approach to life that is very exotic compared to mine.

Do I sense a kind of religiosity, a move toward the elderly wise man’s disappearance in eternity’s chapel?”

– Poul Nesgaard


“I have now read the first chapter and laughed at the whole cascade of male characters that were expanded upon in the text. I can see them all before me, and I laugh at myself.”

– Marie Hyltén-Cavallius


“… interesting call for masculine soul-searching”

– Carsten Güllich-Nørby
DBC Lecturer Opinions